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A blog for women who are tired of hating their bodies, who have always wanted to be a "hottie". It starts on the inside, with getting comfortable in your own skin. Accepting your physical imperfections as merely what makes you unique and realizing that real men like a few flaws. We will also share girly tips, and have fun with this in general. Email Susie if you would like to join. ContributorsLinks
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Sunday, September 24, 2006
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I've just come up with a really cool idea. First let me tell you what sparked this. I've struggled my entire life with my self esteem in the looks department. Now before you gasp, or think "she's ridiculous", hear me out. I've never been able to just relax, and believe that I am attractive. I've always focused on my flaws, and strove to be thinner, trimmer, or whatever. And now, after divorce, and some major reconstructive surgery on my frontal lobe, I've come to a few conclusions. My looks are not at all what the problem is. They contribute to the problem, in several ways, but it's my attitude ABOUT my looks that is the problem.
I've never been able to accept compliments very well. They make me uncomfortable, because in my head I'm thinking "sure, whatever, I'm fat, or I'm not that pretty and they're just trying to be nice". I have also been thin all my life, to an extreme. After some deep depression, I joined the masses on anti-depressants, and I gained weight. I started getting the "you look healthier" comments. Lots of people started saying, "you look way better with some meat on your bones". Well, I've not been very happy with this meat on my bones, for about 2 years now. Now that the marriage has unraveled, and I know for a fact the initial attraction had to do with my skinny ass, and tight tummy, I've reformulated my thinking. I'm getting comfortable in my own skin. I've decided that women who are happy with themselves have been viewed as "stuck up" or "snotty" or "arrogant". So why is that? Why would we look at someone who likes themselves, and think it was wrong for them to actually be confident in their looks? How dumb is that. I propose this. That we not only get comfortable in our own skin, but we celebrate it. We start being hotties, from the inside out. We look in the mirror and we tell ourselves everyday. DANG GIRL, you are HAWT. And the attitude we perpetuate on the inside, will thus infiltrate outward, and gradually we will truly believe we are hotties. We WILL be hotties. Because lets face it ladies, even though you might get told you're hot, do you really believe it? Or do you brush it aside, and believe that old tape playing in your head? Let's fight the stigma together And lets get hot and be hot. Lets be hotties for ourselves first, then our mates secondly. We can laugh, look, share and explore together. We can swap beauty secrets, and we can encourage and exhort one another. We can have an extreme makeover of the whole body and soul. Now for the business section: First of all this template is temporary. I want a template that sparks and flares. One that speaks of our hotness. So i'm on the prowl for it, and if someone finds one, or wants to make one, be my guest. Next, I want YOU to join me. I don't give a rats ass if you think you're hot or not. Fix yourself up, put on something sexy and take a picture of yourself. When you join, you will post this picture with a short description of yourself, and you will list your best assets inside and OUT. I'll go first! I took this picture this summer, and I really think this was about the time i finally started to believe, hey, i'm ok and dangit, men like me. I'm not being arrogant, or anything like that. But I'm addressing a lifelong insecurity. And I'm going to embrace my inner hotness, and enjoy it while there's still time.  WHO IS WITH ME, STEP UP POST YOUR EMAIL IN THE COMMENTS SECTION AND I'LL SEND YOU AN INVITE
posted by Anonymous at 12:12 PM
27 comments
Comments: You know, this is something that has been on my mind lately. When I was younger, growing up down in Hell, Missouri, women were judged primarily by how they looked. You couldn't escape it. I sort of grew up evaluating myself in that way. It's a horrible way to go through life. I had a hard time shaking it off, too. I think getting away helped. Getting an education helped, too, because it gave me confidence in my mind. I was more than just how I looked. I'm still in touch with some old friends from down there, and I've noticed that they still compete, even if they're married or whatever. It's like they have to be the most attractive female because that's all there is. If men aren't attracted to you, you're not worth anyone's notice. (Never mind that flaw in the logic that ignores the fact that most men will nail anything, but I digress). Here's the thing. I ain't no spring chicken, girlfriend. Nothing lasts forever, especially youthful beauty. And if we don't have something else to feel good about, what is there? I've hit the big 4-0. I think I'm still attractive and youthful-looking. But I can't hang onto this forever. Oil of Olay ain't no miracle cream. So, now I need the confidence to say to hell with that. I've come a long way, but the next years will be challenging.
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1:11 PM
Sus....what an AWESOME idea!!!!!! I WANT TO JOIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I most certainly need a self-esteem boost after putting on all this weight! You have my email address.....sigh me up Scottie! ...can I say again I LOVE those freckles! You are hawt! :) I am in...you are once again talking out of my head...I agree with the young boys...not always a bad thing... nvis: i would definetely agree about the education. i believe that being in college and doing well there, helped me to be stronger, and stand up for myself in my second disastrous marriage. because i know, that i can make it on my own, and make good money with my education, i don't have to rely on a man, thus put up with his crap. and if you ask me, you look 10 yrs younger than you are, so post that one pic, you know the one i'm referring to. just do it. lets have fun with this. mcbunni: i'm so glad you like this idea, i can't wait emmers: your in!! wthenrest: i hope your email is on your website? i need to send you an invite bossy: see you soon, invite coming AJ: oh good, are you still tanning? i am. i like myself better when i'm not pasty white
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posted by
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7:08 PM
sassy, i need your email. i already said so on your blog, just in case you don't see this bossy, yes. i'm showing it off. just cause
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posted by
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7:23 PM
anne, did you miss the part where i said I DON'T CARE IF YOU THINK YOU ARE OR NOT, YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE YOU ARE STILL, IT'S NOT ABOUT THE WEIGHT, ETC. ITS AN INSIDE THING, SO POST A PICTURE ALREADY
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posted by
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10:06 PM
oooo me too me too! i want to show my inner hotness. i had low self esteem as a kids, teen and adult. i changed the name to a diff spelling, because i want to be a unique hit on google. if someone has a better idea, let me know? there is a sight called bloggin hotties already, but it's too risque, and not what i want here.
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posted by
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7:02 AM
awesome lynn!! i just need your email. i commented on that over at your blog just in case you don't see this
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posted by
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8:06 AM
Ok so I can't follow instructions...lol I am working on which pic to send... email- mywordz@hotmail.com I am really diggin deep for the inner hottie.... send me an invite! just found this and it looks like fun. you have the greatest ideas....now how can we get you to make money off your blogs? Seriously girl, you have talent. Oh ...and your hot! ok, I will post something if you invite me. I think I am not so bad looking. But I know I would be more attractive to men if I had a more girlie personality, you know, with a lot of chirpy high pitched talk, and if I added some well-applied makeup and sexy clothing. (but that's just not me!) Oprah suggests taking pole dancing lessons. |
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